1 in 3 girls in the UK experience unwanted sexual contact whilst at school
The FBI estimate that only 37% of all rapes are reported to the police
An estimated 66k women in the UK are affected by FGM (female genital mutilation)
The Victim
He believes that everyone has done him a mis-service, especially his previous partners. They abused him; he never touched them. You have got to feel sorry for me.
You can not accuse the Victim of being abusive;, if you do you are just like everyone else he’s ever met. The ones that have been nasty and horrible to him, now you have started being nasty to him too.
If you hurt/upset me, I can hurt/upset you, sometimes more so – just so you learn not to hurt/upset me again.
There is no such thing as a man abusing a woman;, it’s a woman being nasty and revengeful.
My life has been so hard, it excuses my bad behaviour.
Some comments he might make:
“My ex-girlfriend used to embarrass me in public.”
“I’ve never shouted at anyone.”
“I was abused by my ex, and she is a liar.”
“I had a terrible upbringing, so I can’t help being in a bad mood.”
“You’re just like my ex, accusing me of things that aren’t true.”
Please note this is how an abuser thinks, it does not in any way mean that it is the right way to think or behave. Here I have tried to give you examples so that you can recognise the types of abuse that goes on. If you recognise these signs, please get help, talk to a friend, a Domestic Violence Organisation. You can find them on the web, telephone books, or if you are totally stuck, go to the police and they will point you in the right direction.
My 1st ex, used the excuse his father died when he was only 11 years old and his mother went 'off the rails'. He would also say he was brought up with no money, which is why he was mean with his money. He felt that everyone else owed him something. It wasn't uncommon to hear him say "what you looking at?"
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